Character Traits of a Situational Situation

What are the most difficult situations in which an individual has the most trouble expressing?

1) Apologizing
2) Letting go - Different from forgiving.
3) Forgiving - Different from letting go.
4) Reaching out
5) Opening up

Which one would you pick?

You only need to look in the (bad) news to see the situations in which people struggle or there is a need to express. 

My pick: Apologizing. 

I think individuals find it difficult to apologize in a correct manner. More on it in a bit.

Letting Go. Let me point out that all five of these qualities possess their own difficulty. With letting go such as moving on from a moment in life due to maturity, per se, is favored by individuals. Well, unless you're taking about a crazy ex. 

Forgiving. To truly forgive sounds great, feels great, does great, and is great. But, I'm not sure if forgiveness gets the treatment it deserves. We, as individuals, endure a revenge phase in our minds or out of our minds. Forgiveness is tough, particularly if the matter has a deep impact. 

But, it's necessary.

Reaching Out. Some struggle at this quality and others do not struggle. You have your outgoing personalities in high school, college, and on the job. The person who reaches out well may spontaneously call you. For those of you who do not like phone calls...get a grip. Really. There's nothing wrong with reaching out.

Opening Up. You don't have to tell everyone all of your business because everyone is not trustworthy. But, some people need to lash out.

Apologizing. To say, I'm sorry, has a process as expressed in the book, The Languages of Apology:

1) Express that you are truly sorry.
2) Accept responsibility for your action(s)
3) Making restitution.
4) Repent and mean it.
5) Ask for forgiveness.

A process. If forgiveness provides difficulty, then how does one say, I'm sorry? So, let me include that part. The other part, well, let me say that I am not referring to simple apologies as in when you step on someone's toe by accident. No. 

An apology in the manner that deserves a process occurs because you have insulted someone or some moment or because you may often mess up an important assignments (e.g., overdue papers, messed up orders). 

You see perfect times for the five-step apology with athletes and celebrities if they mess up in a relationship or perform a regrettable action. 

Quick Apologies. The quicker and more sincere the apology, the better. From experience, the immediate squash helps rather than a prolonged apology. Sure, you want to let an problem or conflict linger because your emotions or the individual's emotions have caught fire. 

News flash to all parties involved: SQUASH THAT BAD BOY!

Go through the process aforementioned and do what you need to do in order to move on.

What's the point in the opposite?

Much success to you | Derek | @teemptraining |derekteempt@gmail.com